The Lord has brought me on a journey of purging this year—purging through minutes and months of sought after pleasure that used to hold me—but now don’t. Used to keep me full, but now do quite the opposite.

Why would God do such a thing? Such a purgation?

Well, I can’t answer that question in full quite yet, and maybe won’t ever be able to on this side of heaven, but what I can say is this—the stripping that has taken place and that which is in process, or in denial, is right. It’s true, valid movement that I wouldn’t change for anything. That said, however, it’s been the hardest of my life. Not because I moved to California (surfing is fun), or fell into a community that ushers me toward knowness like never before. Such “externals” have been sweet. Internally though, by far, it’s been the most stretching of my life. But also the truest, deepest and maybe first in which I’ve actually lived “alive.”

Life to this point had been a series of experiences and exposures where I discovered a great love for loving people and a greater love for doing so in the name of God. Whether through relating, discipling, writing, serving, or performing, I learned to love and “let be loved” a “saved” Abbie. (In case that’s not as clear as it needs to be, I didn’t need Jesus to love or be loved…I had “been saved” and was thus attempting function out of that position). You can see then, that most of my love was out of, or into, a hiding space, a space of strengths and outward ability.

A lot of that has died this year. Some by choice and some by the grace of God’s stripping. I’ve died to a lot I thought I knew—knew about my self and the world and my self in the world. I’ve died to a lot of habits—habits I knew were bad and habits I thought were good. I’ve died a lot of prides, positions and presuppositions. And I still have a lot of dying to go—a lifetime, in fact. But the irony here—the Greatest irony of All, I think—is that in choosing these deaths, I’ve started to live. By Grace’s allowance encouraging me to die, I’ve actually started to live. To truly be with people—to behold the weights of friendship. To truly be and be alone—in its wholeness and its state of sorrow. Only a Divine Spirit can shadow these risky landings. Only a Savior can hold them. I need the saving grace of Jesus if I’m going to live today. No longer do I spend days medicating with gifts and identities done with excusing masks that’s it’s, “for the glory of God.” Rather, in learning to cry-out for a Savior, I’ve been able to be weak—to embrace my given nature of weakness and need. To laugh. To cry. To be scared, to be hurt and to be helped.

Don’t let me get off this easily though—the last month, in particular, has found me running back to old ways of coping—old wavelengths that separated me from my self and others. I will go to a lot of extremes to avoid the Truth. To avoid being known, loved, liked, or seen. I will empty my life for another, in order to avoid letting another see my emptiness. My imperfection. My confliction. My desperation. But what I cannot negate is that I have tasted truth this year. I have tasted enough of a freedom in weakness—a peace in surrender, that I at least know it’s ‘there.’ It’s willing, if I let It.

The choice, then, remains one of my will.
Am I willing to choose God, when He cannot be felt?
To choose Him, when His ways are yet to be seen, or certainly understood?
Am I willing to trust God?